Q: “My problem is not that I don’t encounter attractive people or individuals that catch my attention. My problem is that I’m shy and I don’t really know how to approach people I don’t know. Any suggestions?”---Katy R.Read More
The key is to notice and be aware of your internal sorting process, and at the same time, be courteous and grateful to the date for offering you these realizations. In this sense, there is never actually a “bad date” because they are all offering you very useful data and intel for your life and relationship creation process...Read More
Loyalty is constructed, enjoyed, and lived by having shared experiences and a shared world view...Read More
Melody Kiersz, NYC Tawkify Matchmaker and Founder at Naked Wellness, circulated Mate-Seeking: The Science of Finding Your Best Partner out to the team last month on a hunch we would find it intriguing. There's is a lot of "meat" to both Sean Braswel's NPR story and Jeb Kinnison's analysis of it that we thought the greater populace might benefit from...Read More
There is a profound authenticity to meeting someone as you are - as they are - for the first time - especially when you least expect it. In that moment you are discovering another person, figuring out in realtime who they are and - if you're lucky - sensing that mysterious alchemy of burgeoning interest, maybe attraction...Read More
This week's question: What is Love? What does it feel like?
Matchmaker Melody says:
Wow... I think philosophers, psychologists, theologians and researchers of all kinds have been grappling with this one for thousands of years...Read More
"Sheng Nu" literally translates to "Leftover woman."
Today, Chinese women face immense pressure to get married before they turn 27. In many Chinese cities, so called marriage markets are a common sight, where parents go to post and match personal ads. A number of brave Chinese women have finally stood up to speak their mind against society’s labels and their parents' pressures...Read More
Attraction is surely a fickle beast, but science has proven that intelligence attracts-- and humor implies intelligence. Geoffrey Miller and Dr. Gil Greengross’s recent paper on the importance of humor in mating, asserts that humor is indeed an indicator of mate quality and mental fitness...Read More
When going out into the world (or, more often, the internet) to seek love and companionship, most of us decide to date someone based on how they make us feel, or based on attributes we seek in someone else. Most of us don’t think about the relationship we want. We think about the person we want, and, once we find them, assume a lasting relationship will organically take shape from there...Read More
Let's trust ourselves and turn our backs on those who don't. Let's breathe fire and magic together. Let's burn your stupid fucking questionnaires and scorecards to ashes, and then let's fly through the blustery wind together, brilliant and perfect and terrible. Let's never live under that mountain again...Read More
Since we’re in the professional matchmaking business, we run into a lot of different people with interesting stories about their past relationships. Something that we try to remind them is it’s one thing to be in a relationship--it’s something else entirely to be in one that is right for them...Read More
Toxic friends. Whether we want to admit it or not, all of us have had at least one. We have covered unhealthy romantic relationships before, but what about unhealthy platonic relationships? What are some of the indicators of an unhealthy friendship? LifeHack recently published a thorough list of indicators...Read More
Since launch in June 2015, Heartalytics has published A LOT of great advice, research and original storytelling. As editor, I felt it would be helpful to our readers to create a monthly snapshot of past content. This isn't just any past content, of course...
Look to these snapshots for quick, no nonsense tips that get right to the heart of the matter...a dating instruction roundup, if you will.
Enjoy these short, sage snippets of input and encouragement on us...Read More
Think about the past several relationships you’ve been in. Why did they end? Think back to the first time you met and the 2-3 dates that immediately followed. If you’re really honest with yourself, did you see any red flags? Ones that, unfortunately, you ignored?
Why do we do this? Falling in love is a rush -- but you are still you...Read More
It has been brought to our attention that you have encountered difficulties while navigating the San Francisco dating scene. You find the process deeply upsetting, confusing, and ultimately unknowable. Your efforts to increase intimacy in order to mitigate your overwhelming sense of loneliness have been met with seemingly insurmountable obstacles such as...Read More
Last week, I sat down with Julia Armet - Tawkify's magnetic Director of Operations. She was one of our first matchmakers upon the company's founding. She is fun, sharp, and a wiz at her job!
Heartalytics readers, meet Jules...Read More
Science says lasting relationships come down to 2 basic traits...
Business Insider recently published an article based on the findings of Psychologist John Gottman's 40-year study of relationships and marriage. Interestingly, this topic of study wasn't widely examined until the 1970s when the rate of divorce suddenly spiked to unprecedented levels. Gottman was one of the early researchers in the field -- culminating over four decades of research, experimentation and analysis. And if you asked him, Gottman would tell you that healthy relationships boil down to two essential traits...Read More
Have you ever watched an episode of Sex And The City and thought, "Gosh! Carrie and I sure have a lot in common!" Perhaps in the last episode of Friends you caught, you felt akin to the charismatic Rachel Green. Or maybe, like the millions who watch Scandal, you feel a connection to the fierce Olivia Pope.
We thought it would be interesting to identify which iconic leading lady most women relate to. We also felt this was an opportunity to have (and provide) a lot of fun. So please, enjoy!
Does it shock you to learn that an estimated 85% of online dating profiles are inaccurate? If you’ve been dating online, probably not. If you haven’t, it probably makes you wonder – yet again – why so many people trust their love lives to the impersonal, unpredictable algorithms of cyberspace social. If it’s hard to “judge a person by a profile” in the first place, and most people are lying in the profiles or posting 10-year old photos on top of that, then… what’s the point, right?
I don’t know of a single person (pun intended) on a dating site who hasn’t experienced that appallingly awkward moment when they approach their intended date-in-the-flesh for the first time, and realize...Read More
The longest relationship I’ve had on American soil lasted for five months...Read More