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Dating apps are the courtship equivalent of next-day shipping, where you don’t have to twiddle your thumbs and wait for an adequate romantic prospect to drift by. They release a flood of potential suitors, your inbox notifications flashing red with heartbeats of their own...Read More
You know that person who sits on a throne as the deity in your personal romantic mythology? That person who shook you to the core and revealed to you...Read More
Everything was perfect…until it was time to order dinner.
When I think back, we had sent the waiter away several times because my date had not even looked at the menu as we were so engrossed in conversation, or so I thought...Read More
Sometimes you learn the most about a destination because you let yourself be vulnerable and live enough in the moment to meet someone who can share a local perspective...Read More
It has been brought to our attention that you have encountered difficulties while navigating the San Francisco dating scene. You find the process deeply upsetting, confusing, and ultimately unknowable. Your efforts to increase intimacy in order to mitigate your overwhelming sense of loneliness have been met with seemingly insurmountable obstacles such as...Read More
You are standing in a room. Paint it however you like. Change the lighting. Invite some furnishings. A lamp. A rug. Some music even. Make it relaxing. This is your safe haven. Ahhhh.
In the back of the room, there is a closet. The closet is filled with skeletons.
You hate the closet...Read More
She once told me it was the sweet innocence of it all that welcomed her in; but in the end, I think it was its wrongness that made her keep fighting long after she should have let go. She enjoyed playing with the complexities of life in that way. You see, even as pups, wolves should never be turned into pets--they just aren’t meant to lead a domesticated life. But when she came across that small creature on her property, barely two weeks old, three pounds, and abandoned--she was a goner. Things changed irrefutably in that instant, for her, and for everyone in her life. I guess that’s why we’re here today...Read More
She slept on the kitchen floor. Eyes tear-streaked, her eyeliner and mascara smudged around her eyes. Her hands were dirty, and her arms, though skinny, were well muscled, as though she’s seen some hard work. There was something interesting about her face that made me linger longer than necessary--considering the reason I had come into the kitchen in the first place, due to the alarmingly loud beeping from the smoke detector. I found the cause of the wailing: the stove was on, and a dishrag near the stove had caught fire. What the in the Hell…? Stepping over the figure, I quickly put out the fire and squinted at the microwave, shivering in only my boxers. 5:30am. On a Sunday. Wonderful...Read More
I sat down today with Fernando. He's a fantastically handsome African-Mexican American. He likes to say he's, "blacksican." Fernando is a world class caretaker for the elderly who is also a rockstar on the dance floor. Fernando's interview will be the first in a series of "single spotlights" where I will get to know different men and women through light conversation about love.
Fernando, tell me about yourself.
I’m in my early 30’s, I live in Richmond CA and I work as a caregiver for a lovely lady who will remain nameless...
A popular rumor about Karen Dalton is that she died homeless on the streets of New York. (In fact, although her life and especially the latter part of it retains a lot of mystery, it seems that she spent her last couple of weeks under the care of guitarist Peter Walker in southeastern New York state.) Her biography is murky enough to allow for imagination, and archetypical enough to suggest the tragedy of the folk singer. Her voice is a storied and sad alto, the kind of voice that makes you feel you know her personally...Read More
Strap on your boots and pull out your high intensity hairspray--we’re tackling dating in the big ‘D’!
Dallas has a great sense of appreciation for different cultures and the arts. If you have a pioneering spirit and you like the heat, this is your city. Don’t shy away from looking for a two-step partner to step out with here. Even though Texas is riddled with stereotypical types, there really is someone for everyone here; it’s not all gun-strapping men and busty blondes...Read More
Gotham. Metropolis. NYC. The super-dater who chooses this city has great responsibility ahead of him or her. There's never a dull moment and a "date" can happen anywhere; standing on a corner in the east village or sitting next to someone on the subway. Fair warning, there will be trials and you may have to jump a few rooftops before you find your dazzling someone. New Yorkers have to be savvy. It takes the strength and stamina of a superhero to make it here. So come on Batman, let's go find your Batgirl, Robin, Poison Ivy or...whoever it is you’re looking for...Read More
I’ve always loved love songs. They make magic. They affirm belief in fate. They outline a divine plan that guides our love lives, pushing us through the wrong relationships and inexorably toward the arms of “the one.” Love songs accept love at first sight as a fact (I’m not sold on this particular theme). Regardless, they give us hope. That’s what gives them power.
My “love song” story is about the first time I saw a photography student whose name isn’t really Thomas. I was a freshman in college, at a screening of The Rocky Horror Picture Show...