While there are all kinds of variations within partners, mixed-attractiveness couples do go somewhat against the grain. We're often cautioned that real beauty is found within, but good looks are among the more highly rated characteristics in what people say they want in a romantic partner. And in general, couples tend to be more similar in many respects...Read More
Some people claim to live without regrets...and while that sounds lovely, I'm not sure it also sounds realistic...Read More
Since we’re in the professional matchmaking business, we run into a lot of different people with interesting stories about their past relationships. Something that we try to remind them is it’s one thing to be in a relationship--it’s something else entirely to be in one that is right for them...Read More
Recently, Huffington Post published, “20 Secrets of Happily Married Couples.” We liked the oft-shared pearls of wisdom from all sorts of people in committed relationships:
- Never go to bed angry (of course, we’ve got mixed-research on this one.)
- Never lose your sense of humor (assuming you had one in the first place)...
We assumed the whole “holiday break up epidemic” rhetoric was… just that. That the allegedly higher probability of couples splitting like wishbones from a turkey… if you’ll pardon the simile... around the holiday season was more of a Hollywood thing, and anecdotal urban myth more than a statistically solid phenomena...Read More
If you’re a dater, or in a newish relationship, the holiday social circuit poses a certain dilemma: To bring the new guy/gal or not to bring. Should you bring a plus one who isn’t your regular squeeze or committed partner to “your” holiday events?...Read More
Can a life or a relationship be boiled down to a pithy one liner? Could any of your past relationships be characterized in this way? And if so, who decides in retrospect? Does it boil down to choice or interpretation, or both...Read More
Countless studies indicate that our parents influence us in many ways - some we don’t even realize - in terms of how our perspective on adult relationships are formed. Are your parents together or divorced. In either case, were they happy with their decisions, or not so much…
How about you?Read More
In a recent post by Jezebel, “Taking a Break to Be Friends Is the Most Baffling Activity Known to Humankind,” the conversation turns to couples who decide to break up---sometimes without technically calling it that---in order to be friends. Uh huh...Read More
While some clients admittedly come to feeling kind of miserably “alone” or unhappily uncoupled, many others really enjoy this time of their lives while searching for a most ideal other. “Single” doesn’t necessarily equate to “alone” in the mind of every singleton, and one’s perception of the challenges and opportunities inherent to going it alone for awhile appears to be somewhat, well… individual.Read More
In our experience working with thousands of daters and countless successful Tawkify-forged couples, little things do, indeed, tend to mean a lot. Getting a “Good morning, Beautiful/Handsome” text as you’re getting ready for work, or an impromptu greeting card “just because”... or playing footsie with your date under a table at your favorite coffee spot, just to connect undercover, can go a long way in strengthening feelings of attachment and contentment...Read More
Part audition, part interview, part gauntlet. No one seems to be overly fond of the unavoidable first date. Of course, without it, there’d be no seconds, or thirds, or marriages or children. So that’s that. Unless you have a Tawkify Matchmaker to “go on” all of your potentially terrible first dates for you when they screen potential matches, you’re just stuck, we’re afraid.
Besides the pressure of choosing the right place, wearing the right thing and talking about all the right stuff, what’s the big deal, anyway. Suffice it to say, first impressions are, indeed, quite lasting and our first date feedback loop definitely bears this out...Read More
“There’s a paradox that would be amusing if it weren’t so starkly true: Though numerous people in America would say they’re lonely, they’re certainly not alone in that feeling. Despite the fact that we can have thousands of friends on Facebook and armfuls of followers on Twitter, we’ve entered what many social commentators have dubbed the ‘age of loneliness.’
Amazing that although we have more access to people than ever that so many of us do feel lonely. Dictionary’s website defines that as being this: ‘destitute of sympathetic or friendly companionship, intercourse, support, etc.’ OK, but here’s our dilemma: For every person who’s lonely, how many single people would say ‘I’m not lonely, I’m alone. BIG DIFFERENCE.”Read More
“Ghosting is the process of ending a romantic (or platonic) relationship by cutting off, blocking, or ignoring your former partner's attempts to contact you. Basically, when you're ghosting someone, you're ending a relationship without acknowledging, explaining, or informing your partner of your intentions.”
Wow. Can there be enough words to convey how rude, tacky, immature, cowardly, potentially cruel and utterly ridiculous ghosting sounds?Read More
If you find yourself continually attracted to emotionally unavailable types, check out, “We’ve got to stop procrastinating in unavailable relationships,” and tell us what you think.
Why do we sometimes (or always) seek out relationships with people who exhibit clear signs they aren’t “available enough” for a relationship, and are most likely not going to give us what we want or need to be happy in a relationship?Read More
Most human beings thrive in connected, intimate relationships - of course - but some folks seem to need to be in a romantic relationship more than others. Of course all people feel lonely from time to time -- sometimes even in the midst of a relationship -- this is part of the human condition. However, some report feeling “empty” until they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, as though they are incomplete if not partnered. They find themselves unable to be happy on their own. Can you relate to this feeling?Read More
Last month, CNN published an article entitled: “Has Tinder Replaced Dating with Hookup Culture?” Feel free to read it all the way through, but mostly it’s one commentator’s perspective on “hook-up culture” in general.
For instance, one fellow referenced is named Alex, a guy who works on Wall Street (naturally) who is able to have sex with as many as 100 women a month thanks to app-enabled dating...Read More
We’ve decided to take you along a couple of times a week--with pieces inspired by the wacky, inspiring, confusing, and inspirational stuff we trip over --because we want to see what you think. Each piece will end with a question, because the topic in question has got us itching to continue the conversation.
So, please, jump in. As we like to say during our clients’ post-date-feedback, “there is no such thing as TMI” when you’re working with a personal matchmaker, so don’t be afraid to tell us what you really think. Perhaps you’ll inspire additional research, or maybe a survey to query the learned and delightfully opinionated folks in our database for their take, and maybe a follow-up article or two right here on the blog...Read More