There might be a crucial juncture in life where one wants a stable relationship with someone. But the other person may have different ideas and may not be ready to commit and do not show any indications supporting the idea of committing. It becomes evident that the other person either wants to keep things casual or are not ready for a relationship.
The other person does not share the same relationship goals or vision of the future. If an individual wants a long-term relationship, but the other person wants to keep it casual, that individual will end up wasting time and energy on a relationship that was never going to end well. Instead of trying to convince the partners to go steady – which rarely works, one should take a step back and look at other, more practical options.
But before that, it is vital to find out how the other person sees the relationship. Here is how to do that:
Size up the other person’s intentions.
Every relationship has its own set of nuances and subtleties. Paying close attention to these details reveals a lot about the other person’s intentions. For instance:
● Does the other person wish to achieve long-term goals before getting serious in a relationship?
● Does the other person hint at being together when talking about future?
● Does the other person turn lively or interested when talking about going steady?
● Does the other person drop hints about settling down?
If the answer to any of these questions is ‘No,’ the other person may not be dating with intention. When someone wants to keep a relationship strictly casual, that person focuses their energies on the present and never on the future. But should an individual find out that the person is sending out mixed signals or cannot accurately gauge the other person’s intentions, it might be a good idea to have a direct conversation.
Be straightforward and clear.
It is crucial to be direct and clear if someone is ambiguous about having a committed relationship. People often avoid speaking from their heart for the fear of rejection or do not want to risk a good relationship, instead preferring to let things run on autopilot. But unless an individual and the other person in the relationship are not on the same page, relationship goals will remain out of sync, leading to misunderstanding and heartbreak. Letting the other person know clearly about future goals will put all doubts to rest. One may not like the outcome of having a direct conversation, but it is better to come to grips with reality now than later.
Understand the other person’s reasons.
Ensuring that someone is ready for a relationship is not about fixing blame, it is about evaluating the suitability of the other person as a partner. Instead of criticizing the partner or indulging in self-criticism, try to understand the circumstances. There are many reasons why someone may not be interested in or be ready for a committed relationship. It is possible that the other person is facing personal issues or financial issues that need to be resolved first. One should always avoid trying to help the other person too much, as it may not always work.
Do not have self-doubts.
It is also possible that an individual begins having self-doubts. The person may blame themselves and develop self-image issues. But this cannot farther from the truth. For a relationship to be healthy and fruitful, the relationship goals of the partners must be a snug fit. One should feel grateful about finding the strength to face the issue head-on. The more the person had waited, the worse heartbreak it would have been. Moving on to finding a suitable partner is all that remains.
Finding the right partner.
Someone who have had past relationships and if these relationships always ended in non-commitment, the person might be choosing the same type of person to date. It is impossible to get a different result by repeatedly doing the same things. It is important to switch it up and try something different. This is where professional matchmakers like Tawkify come in. Tawkify uses a patented predictability model to match individuals based on their personality profiles, chemistry probability, connection chances, and compatibility. Hiring Tawkify ensures that individuals only match with vetted singles with mutual relationship goals and values. The hundreds and thousands of people that found perfect partners through Tawkify are testament to Tawkify’s effectiveness and success.