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Dating Instruction Roundup IV

They found that women generally felt more connected if a man took active interest in their conversation, by focusing on her and chiming in to ask questions about what she was saying – interrupting, but in a good way. Women also liked it when men laughed right after they did, and when they said complimentary things. Men, on the other hand...

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Volume IV of the Dating Instruction Roundup is here! What gifts of wisdom will this month bring?

Look to these snapshots for quick, no nonsense tips that get right to the heart of the matter…a dating instruction roundup, if you will. 

Enjoy these short, sage snippets of input and encouragement on us:

Don’t sweat it. Don’t take it personally and let whatever issues or hangups other people struggle with define you, pervade your security, or rattle you. We all live inside our own hearts and heads–which means that any type of relationship with another human being will be complex (often fantastic, but also complex).

So, relax. Bring the best version of you–try to leave expectations, past experiences, and baggage behind. Come with the vigor and courage to start anew–and if it fails, move on. Start again. Live and love to the best of your ability and you will find a partner bringing the same dynamism to the table. (8/2/2015, The Best Advice I Can Give You)

It’s important to be really honest with yourself here, because clarity about WHY you’re looking to be in a relationship can help you to better understand your motivations and — hopefully — set yourself up for more healthy connections if they’ve thus far eluded you. Whom you fall in love with, after all, should matter more than if you’re falling in love, so stepping back to ensure you choose the kinds of partners you truly deserve and can be happy with over time, may take time. (10/4/2015, You May Be a Love Addict if…)

They found that women generally felt more connected if a man took active interest in their conversation, by focusing on her and chiming in to ask questions about what she was saying – interrupting, but in a good way. Women also liked it when men laughed right after they did, and when they said complimentary things. Men, on the other hand, felt more connected when women shared stories about themselves and used direct language rather than equivocal words or phrases such as “maybe” or “sort of,” possibly indicating that sensing interest in the woman leads to interest in the man? (9/13/2015, What To Tawk About)

The difference is that most 40-something women aren’t lamenting the fact that they don’t turn the heads of college boys. Many of them would just like to turn the heads of guys their own age. Not so for their male peers, many of whom are busy chasing substantially younger women. Middle-aged men don’t seem to value validation from women their own age as much as they value it from women 10 to 25 years younger. (12/19/2015, Matchmaker Says: The May-December Romance)

See you in June for Volume V of the Dating Instruction Roundup.

Love wisely, 

Valerie Presley Ackler 
Editor, Heartalytics

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