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Lonely or Alone?

“There’s a paradox that would be amusing if it weren’t so starkly true: Though numerous people in America would say they’re lonely, they’re certainly not alone in that feeling. Despite the fact that we can have thousands of friends on Facebook and armfuls of followers on Twitter, we’ve entered what many social commentators have dubbed the ‘age of loneliness.’

Amazing that although we have more access to people than ever that so many of us do feel lonely. Dictionary’s website defines that as being this: ‘destitute of sympathetic or friendly companionship, intercourse, support, etc.’ OK, but here’s our dilemma: For every person who’s lonely, how many single people would say ‘I’m not lonely, I’m alone. BIG DIFFERENCE.”

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Ever notice the relationship content from a site called Cheat Sheet on Yahoo’s main page?  Cheat Sheet is a website for men that purports to touch on all of the things men tend to find interesting. Although the relationship stuff can be a bit tricky to find, if you click on the Health & Fitness section at the top, there’s a drop down menu for Relationships & Family. It’s there that we found an article on loneliness that said:

“There’s a paradox that would be amusing if it weren’t so starkly true: Though numerous people in America would say they’re lonely, they’re certainly not alone in that feeling. Despite the fact that we can have thousands of friends on Facebook and armfuls of followers on Twitter, we’ve entered what many social commentators have dubbed the ‘age of loneliness.’

Amazing that although we have more access to people than ever that so many of us do feel lonely. Dictionary’s website defines that as being this: ‘destitute of sympathetic or friendly companionship, intercourse, support, etc.’ OK, but here’s our dilemma: For every person who’s lonely, how many single people would say ‘I’m not lonely, I’m alone. BIG DIFFERENCE.”

This is where you come in. What do you think differentiates simply being single from actually feeling lonely? And if it’s not too much to ask, could you also let us know which category you think you’re currently in (maybe it’s a little bit of both?) and what you do to salve your loneliness when you feel that way — or embrace and enjoy being single without feeling lonely?

We are all in this relationship struggle — and let’s face it, it is often a struggle– together. If you’re lonely and reading Heartalytics right now, how can we help? How can we alleviate a sense that you are without support or companionship during this transition in your life?

Tawkify is composed of a community of individuals interested in finding their ideal mate–but this is a process. How can we help during this “age of loneliness” to make it less so?

Love, 

Your Tawkify Team

Photography by Fan Ho

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